Conversations with Jackie Hall

  • What is conscious parenting and how do you become one?

    In simple terms, it’s about being aware of how you parent. Being conscious means to be aware. Okay, so with awareness I just noticed that I yelled at my child, that I’m frustrated as all hell because no one is listening to me and I’m aware that I don’t know how else to deal with it, that I’m seeing my child out of control and can’t do squat about it. I’m aware that I feel like a crap parent because of how my child is behaving and that when I react to it I am aware that I feel so guilty because I reacted and because I also don’t know how to react different. Does that make me a conscious parent?

  • 10 ways your THINKING is causing you Parental ANGER

    Often we blame the things going on around us for feeling stressed or anger - it's the child's behaviour, it's my partner, it's lack of sleep, it's having no money. The list can be endless. However, does everyone have the same reaction when facing these events? Do you even have the same reactions EVERY SINGLE TIME you are faced with an event? The answer is no. This is because your 'story' ABOUT the event changes when you are perceiving it in that moment, depending on what else is happening, or has been happening around you.

  • Child behaviour solutions don’t work, so I get angry

    Why is it that you try so hard to find solutions to your child’s behaviour so that you can be calm, only to find that the solutions don’t work, and you end up being angry again? This is a common question I get asked by clients doing our 28 Day Tame your Temper Parenting Challenge. […]

  • How to commit to Anger Management in parenting

    This is such a common sentiment of frustrated parents. We get angry. We feel guilty. We apologise. We hate ourselves or beat ourselves up. We vow to be calm next time. We don’t. Repeat.

  • Is the ‘no smacking’ rule really making our kids into monsters?

    If we fast forward to today's society, from the time of physical punishment to now, the effects of smacking have been widely documented so we’ve been given a very strong message that smacking is a taboo approach to use, but the problem is, up until recently, there was no replacement offered for it either.

  • Why do I behave in ways that take me away from what I want?

    I recently had a client ask why that happens, particularly when the change you want is strong desire and you know it's good for you, but you keep going back to old ways. It just got me thinking about why we do this? For example, for me, I have learnt that speaking calmly with my kids and not raising my voice is a far more effective method of dealing with their behaviour. However, after a few weeks I revert to old habits momentarily.

  • Why Children of divorced parents can still live a happy life

    There’s a lot of attention on how to eradicate the stigma that is attached to depression and mental health, but what about the stigma that is often attached to the idea of single parents, blended families or children of divorced parents? There seems to be this underlying message that kids can’t thrive or are somewhat damaged if their parents can’t stay together, however this is often further from the truth. The reality of raising children is that the messages that they receive about life are what are important, not whether it matches some indoctrinated perception of a ‘right path’ life is supposed to follow, judged by society.

  • Dealing with a negative mindset after childbirth

    Whether you’ve had your first, third or fifth child, anyone can develop negative thought patterns following childbirth. This can have major repercussions on your own health, the health of your child and indeed all the family.