Quite often I read the posts of people introducing themselves on my Live programs, and I think “Wow, you’ve got so much going on. Where should we start first.”
So this post is to help those of you who are feeling this way about your life and parenthood.
What do you want?
A seemingly simple question, yet one that is not often answered with specifics, or if it is, it is answered as more than a wish then a serious goal or expectation.
But this by far is the most important question to ask yourself when you feel like you’re drowning, because we often get sucked into the vortex of seeing everything we don’t have.
I can tell you that there are no solutions down that road.
What is it that you want in your parenting experience?
What is it that you want in your relationships?
What sort of relationship do you want with your kids, your family, etc.?
What does the ideal work/life balance look like?
What sort of person do you want to be?
Sit down with yourself and look at every area of your life and think about what the ideal would look like. What sort of life do you want to create for yourself? What would make you happy?
When you’ve done that, ask yourself whether you have been specific about these wants. When you look at those wants, would you be able to tell that you had achieved them? Or can you be even more specific?
Knowing what you want is the first step to changing your life, because it gives you a direction to go in. From this point, you can then begin to focus on how to get this information, where you can find the information that will help you to get there and who can teach it to you.
Struggles in life don’t mean a failed life. They just mean you lost your direction, or you haven’t yet learnt the skills required to get you there. Don’t waste time thinking about that though, just focus on what you want and how to learn so you can get there!
Free yourself and redesign your life.