This program is specifically designed for parents of pre-school and school age children (including teenagers).
Why does parenting have to be so hard?
Everyone said it would get easier when the kids got older, so how come it’s not?!
Kids not listening
Backchat and attitude
Arguing and fighting (with you and their siblings)
Disrespect and rudeness
Anxiety, depression, sensitivities
ADHD, ASD & ODD…
The list keeps getting longer of what parents are dealing with every day.
One of the most difficult things about parenting in the modern day, is the confusion about how to teach children morals and life skills without using the harsh disciplinary methods used when we were growing up. Often parents want to take a kinder approach, but are clueless about what to use instead?
We often try different methods, but to no avail. At the Parental Stress Centre of Australia, we think we know why this is so…
Why issuing consequences is not enough
Consider for a moment, why do you react to anything?
Well, we experience an event with one or more of the 5 senses (see, hear, touch, taste, smell) and the sensory information gets sent to the brain for evaluation. What is it? Have I seen it? Is there a reference point for it? An opinion? Judgement? What does it mean about me and what should I do about it?
The brain looks for past information already stored to match what is being experienced and draws conclusions about the event. Add into that (from the perspective of a child) a limited ability to accurately reason and sort through information.
Depending on how the brain interprets the event, will determine the response – how your child feels and what they do (reaction) about the situation.
So when you issue those disciplinary techniques like time out, counting to three, punishment of choice etc, we’re really only dealing with the end result – the reaction. It’s like putting a band aid over the problem. it only works until next time a similar event triggers the same thought process, which triggers the same reaction.
Here are just a few examples of common behaviours parents deal with and the mindset behind them:
Anger in children is about control – either they’ve learnt that it gets them control, or it’s a reaction to feeling powerless and feeling like they are being controlled by one or more people. Sometimes there can be an underlying hurt going on being that anger also, that needs attention. Another reason why the focus needs to be on mindset first, rather than disciplining behaviour first.
Strong willed children often get attached to the picture of how they want things to be. The lesson here will be how both of you can learn flexibility, negotiation and compromise and how to set boundaries TOGETHER.
Anxiety in children comes from a fear of life not going to plan because of pictures they have in their head of how something could go wrong and how it’s supposed to be right. They believe that they should be able to manipulate situations so that it always goes to plan, thus have difficulties with the anomolies that life deals them because it doesn’t match the ‘picture. The learning will be in teaching them to embrace change and see the value in all life situations, so there is nothing to fear.
Sibling Rivalry can be about many things – power play, competition, feelings of worthlessness, roles that are being played in the family dynamics, favourtism (deliberate or not), jealousy, or just plain old developmental. The lesson hear is to establish the core root of it before we can determine the best approach.
If we want to help our child to stop repetitively behaving the way they do, we have to get to the root of WHY they are behaving this way – how they THINK!
Then we can establish a plan of how to upgrade/change their thought process and follow up with traditional disciplinary techniques to reinforce what we are teaching them, if necessary.
Helping your child to perceive life differently is the missing ingredient to child behaviour improvement.
Why am I so stressed as a parent?
The simple answer is, because as parents, we often personalise what’s going on with our child. Just like your child who is reacting to how they perceive and interpret life, you too are doing the same. Often the reason why we get reactive over anything, is because of how we are perceiving the event and what we perceive the event to mean about ourselves.
When we are highly reactive and caught up in our own stories about how a situation ‘should’ be different, what we are missing out on because our children keep behaving the way they do, how they ‘should’ know better’ and what you feel they are doing to your life (eg I never get any time to myself, I’ve had enough of having to deal with all this…. etc), it is very difficult to be able to work on your child’s behaviour because all your attention particles are being used up on the story of how things ‘should’ be. We call that being in conflict with reality.
When you’re in conflict with reality and personalising what’s going on, it becomes extremely difficult to focus on solutions and help your child learn to think and behave differently. So the first part of the solution is to change how you are perceiving the situation with your child and free those attention particles up to focus on change – changing your mindset AND changing your child’s, thus changing BOTH your reactions by default.
The solution to improving child behaviour
There are several steps that we need to follow to be able to begin turning our child’s behaviour around and start seeing improvements in their behaviour and in family dynamics.
- Step One – Learn how to recognise the thought process behind your stress and what triggers you to be reactive.
- Step Two – Learn how to recognise the similar thought processes going on behind your child’s behaviours and reactions too.
- Step Three – Learn how you can help both of you change how you perceive life and lift your emotions.
- Step Four – Now that you are in a place of knowing how to help your child and yourself to mentally handle the challenges of life, you can now focus on parenting fundamentals – teaching self-esteem, communication skills, conflict resolution, creating alignment in the family, helping your children to want to co-operate, creating boundaries and teaching life skills and morals to children so they grow up with respect and consideration.
How do I do these four steps?
Well that’s where we come in….
Introducing the Stress Free Kids, Stress Free Parenting Program (self-paced).
The Stress Free Kids, Stress Free Parents program provides you with the training and support you need to raise happy, well-behaved and confident children.
Stress Free Kids, Stress Free Parenting is an eight part program. The core focus of the program is to provide you with practical solutions and strategies for correcting your child’s behaviour and lowering your stress levels.
While many parenting strategies focus directly on dealing with the child’s behaviour, Jackie will teach you to get the root cause of why your child behaves the way they do – how they think.
- Recognise the thinking behind your child’s behaviour
- Help your child to change how they are dealing with life’s unwanted events (which will begin to automatically change their behaviour)
- Strengthen your relationship with your child
- Apply strategies to effectively deal with the behaviour directly
Change your anger and reactiveness over your child’s behaviour
This comprehensive parenting program is run by Jackie Hall, mum, parental counselor, a world leader in practical parenting strategies and Founder of The Parental Stress Centre of Australia.
For a decade, Jackie has been committed to training herself and thousands of other parents on how to overcome the difficulties of raising a child. Her real, practical and non-judgmental approach has positioned her as a leading provider of parental advice and programs in Australia and internationally.
What does the program include?
- 8 x Weekly Videos: Each week you will receive a weekly video for you to watch/listen to, which will go for approximately 1 to 1.5 hours.
- Homework and PDF worksheets: Each week you will be given homework and PDF worksheets to help you apply the information you are learning for the week.
- Bonus book #1 All participants of the SFKSFP Program will receive a free PDF Copy of “A Parent’s Guide to Balance and Getting More YOU Time” (valued at $19.95).
- Bonus book #2 You will also receive a FREE PDF Copy of ““A Parent’s Guide to Find Your Lost Identity and Discovering Your Personal Space” (valued at $19.95).
Why should I join?
Stress Free Kids, Stress Free Parenting is designed and run by a mum who has also been providing professional parenting advice for almost a decade.
Parenting consultations and advice can easily cost hundreds of dollars. But for an affordable price, this program comes with unlimited professional counsellors for support.
Great for you and your children
Jackie’s SFKSFP program not only helps you with your stress, it also enables you to teach your children how to handle their ups and downs with confidence and respect.
The strategies and advice in the Stress Free Kids, Stress Free Parenting program aren’t quick fixes – they provide you with solutions that last.
Money back guarantee
If you complete the parenting program and don’t get anything out of it, we’ll give you a full refund. We’ll even let you keep the Ebooks.
What will I learn?
Many child behaviour strategies only address the child’s behaviour, not the real cause of it. The Stress Free Kids, Stress Free Parents program teaches you to understand the roots of your child’s behaviour – their thinking – and apply effective methods for overcoming stress, misbehaviour and frustration.
This parenting program is an 8 part series that is divided into the following segments:
Understanding stress and emotions – yours and your child’s
- Why you feel stressed over your child’s behaviour
- The four specific ways we view life that lead to you being reactive when your child misbehaves.
- Discover the same mindset playing out in your child’s behaviour too
- Realistic expectations of child behaviour – Understanding the different ages and stages of your child’s brain development
Why do they do that?!
- Investigate the mindset behind your child’s behaviour
- How your child’s view of life and their role in the family is affecting their behaviour
- Why your child chooses to behave the way they do even though they know it’s not okay
- Discover the beliefs your child has behind back chat, sibling rivalry, tantrums and angry outbursts
- Discover why your child is sensitive, anxious or strong willed
Shifting Gears To Stress-Free Thinking
- How to redirect your child’s thinking and see an automatic change in their emotions
- How to teach your children a healthy understanding of life and how to cope with life doesn’t go their way. (Very important…we don’t always get what we want!)
- How to teach gratitude and find value in the unwanted
Discipline in the modern world
- Discover why the old school ‘fear based’ way of parenting is not working
- How to discipline in the modern world
- Balancing love with boundaries
- Being clear on your intention for disciplining your children
- How to find your leverage that will help your kids to want to co-operate
- Methods of disciplining that help children learn life skills and not simply how to obey
Opening up effective communication channels with your child
- Communication techniques to get your child ‘on side’
- Connecting with your child
- A 7 stage approach to working with your child on resolving conflict
Raising a child with high self-esteem
- Learn the difference between self-worth and self-esteem and how to build both in your children
- How to help your children find evidence of their self-worth from their lives
- Help your child to gain a healthy self-image, self-confidence and self-respect
Helping your child with anxiety and/or depression
- Learn to identify the difference between anxiety and depression
- Understand the specific thought processes involved in depression and anxiety
- Strategies for helping your child change their anxiety mindset
- Strategies for helping your child change their depressed mindset
A 5 step Mind TRACK to Happiness Process
- Learn our 5 step process to help you handle any situation that arises in parenting to alleviate YOUR stress
- Teach your child this same process to help them move through life’s challenges
- How you have already been learning to apply the Mind TRACK to Happiness process in this very program
- Key take-home messages from this program
What parents have to say about the program
L. Habak, mum of three, Sydney, NSW
At the time that I decided to do the webinar, I was finding that everyday was groundhog day – the rigmarole of trying to stay calm, getting frustrated and then blowing my top – happened everyday! I needed things to change and quick! The webinar has changed my life and my mind! I feel like prior to doing the webinar I was walking around my life with dark glasses on and now, I see things with a brighter, healthier outlook. I understand (most of the time) why I think what I think, and now I recognise the unhealthy thinking that was going on in my mind. I think I’m a better parent because I have the knowledge now to pass this onto my kids and most importantly I try and lead by example.
The biggest realisation, was bringing everything back to REALITY! The word reality – is a staple in our household now. Whenever something is going on for anyone of my children, the first question I ask them is, what’s the reality? This webinar unlocks the power of your mind and gives you the tools to stay firmly gripped in reality, no matter what that looks like. Jackie is wonderful, she has such a generosity of spirit.
Jackie is totally relatable, she is a mother and she has lived through the trials and tribulations of parenting. She is so forthcoming with examples of her own life, there is a trust. She is so passionate about changing peoples lives and their thinking she truly believes in her work, and practices what she preaches. She doesn’t pretend that this is easy or that the next day you will be a perfect parent – but her reassurance that it is possible to change is unwavering.
K&M Noakes, parents of 3 girls, VIC
The Stress Free Parenting Webinar Series made us consciously stop to look at the situation at hand before acting, instead of jumping head first then regretting later how we handled it. My husband & I liked that it worked in conjunction with our parenting style (respectful) and it was all common sense.
Michael said why he wanted to do it was in the first few minutes. What you said “made sense”, perception vs reality. Our kids are calmer and responding better to our rules. Our middle daughter has always been a handful and nothing we have tried in the past worked, this works!! She loves having choices & by doing so she feels in control and yet still does what we need her to do, her tantrums have more than halved!
L. Sporle, mum of 2, Melbourne
I chose the Stress Free Kids, Stress Free Parents webinar because I felt that I was at a bit of a cross road with my parenting and was unsure how to handle the challenges presented to me by my 2 and 3 year old daughters. The biggest realisation I had was that there is a logical reason for every behaviour and that by distinguishing what I thought was happening from reality I was able to see the bigger picture and not feel so overwhelmed. I also realised I am not alone and many parents feel challenged by their children’s behaviour but it’s how we react to each situation, which determines the overall outcome.
The webinar series has given me a starting point to move forward and develop some confidence in my parenting. I am able to climb out of the rut I have been in for some time and by having links to the seminars I can revisit the areas I need to whenever I feel it is necessary. It was real help that I could put into action straight away. I have no doubt my children will benefit from me taking part in the webinar series as quite simply I will be a happier mother and a mother who is working towards understanding her children and their thought processes so much more.
The best feature of the webinar was having the virtual one on one contact with Jackie. It felt like you were in the room with her and she was guiding me through the lessons. Jackie was a very thorough, approachable and professional presenter. She listened and connected to her audience and appeared very ‘real’ , from a participant’s point of view. Knowing she had her own personal struggles as a mother meant that I could relate to her quickly and I didn’t feel like I was being judged or spoken down to.